How wonderful it would be if everyone would be kind and caring! What a difference this would make in our families, in our community, in the world today. Our Cebu South sister, Kathy Oyson, shares some thoughts of Blessed Mother Teresa on kindness and caring.
Just recently, I was surprised upon seeing the friend of my daughter so soon because it was only last month that she was here to make a follow-up on the papers of a lot that she had bought. She said that she would stay a little bit longer before flying back home to Manila because her aunt was comatose in the hospital.
I asked her if her aunt is a sister of her mother. She said ‘no.’ She called her her ‘auntie’ because during the time that she was down, she was always there to cheer her up and comfort her. She was her ‘weeping post.’ She said that it is at this time that she must return the goodness and kindness that she had done to her.
How wonderful it would be if all people could be like her – making a difference in this world by being kind and caring. I must say that I truly believe that whatever kindness and goodness that we do to others will come back to us – maybe not all the time from the same person but for sure, it will return to us because life is “what you sow is what you reap.”
An unknown writer asks this question: “How do you want to be remembered?”
In line with this, Mother Teresa in her book, “The Joy in Loving,” compiled by Jaya Charlika and Edward Le Jolly, points out some thoughts that are worth pondering.
“It is not enough for us to say ‘I love God.’ I also have to love my neighbor.” In the Scriptures, St. John says that you are a liar if you say you love God and you do not love your neighbor. How can you love God whom you do not see, if you do not love your neighbor whom you see, whom you touch, with whom you live?
“Don’t neglect your family.” If today so many young people are misled, it is because mothers are so busy that when the children come home from school there’s nobody to receive them or play with them. So, they go back to the streets where there are drugs and drinks and so many other things.
“Once you know you have hurt someone be the first to say sorry.” We cannot forgive unless we know that we need forgiveness and forgiveness is the beginning of love.
“The quickest and the surest way towards thoughtfulness is the tongue. Use it for the good of others.” If you think well of others, you will also speak well of others. Violence of the tongue is sharper than any knife, wounding and creating bitterness that only the grace of God can heal.
“Let us remember that Jesus has said: ‘Whatever you do to the least of my brothers, you do it to me.’” Just think – that little smile that you give to a lonely person, that hand you give a blind person to cross the road, that little bit of food you sacrifice for someone who is hungry, you do it for Him.
“Give a person tender love and care.” Your radiating concern, your radiating joy will give that person great hope.
“What are these drops of oil in our lamps?” They are the little things of everyday life: fidelity, little words of kindness, just a little thought for others, those little acts of silence, of look and thought, of word and deed.
“To parents: It is very important that children learn from their fathers and mothers how to love one another – not in the school, not from the teacher, but from you.” It is very important that you share with your children the joy of that smile. There will be misunderstandings, every family has its cross, its suffering. Always be the first to forgive with a smile. Be cheerful, be happy.
“If you have a sick or lonely person at home, be there.” Maybe just to hold a hand, maybe just to give a smile, that is the greatest, the most beautiful work.
Reprinted with permission from the BCBP Cebu South September 2013 newsletter, KAIGSUONAN.
Originally posted in KAPATIRAN on October 9, 2013.