By “Car” Manuel, BCBP Alabang
I was touched by this phrase I read awhile ago in the Ladies Forum on our BCBP website: “Oftentimes we think of serving God as a performance, as having to accomplish things through our own efforts and actions. I believe that being called to service is an act of surrendering our will to God. We are not here to compete, to order others around, or to use our service to compensate for our own weaknesses or create little personal empires where we reign supreme.” I totally agree and I want to share with all of you my experience as I learned the hard way that we are not here to compete but to complement and support our community leaders, most especially, if the leader is our spouse. (‘’;)
Generally I am perceived to have a strong personality that is always being misinterpreted as “mayabang”, “malakas ang dating”. Well, this was maybe due to the traits I’d developed over time being an achiever in school during my younger years, and later on, working in an environment where most people are assertive and loud, because of their Western culture. Having to work with Americans and British people for a little over 16 years made me confident and, admittedly I can say, yes! I overly talk a little too much at times! Friends of mine would say I was just gifted with a talent of being a good conversationalist. While not so good friends would just say that I am simply talkative and “mapapel” (some kinda negative!).
When we were called to be members of the BCBP in the year 2005, I was the one who forced (not just invited) my husband to join me. He attended just to please me. We were active for a while serving in almost all of the CLP’s after ours. Yet back then, my husband seemed to not want to be as active as I wanted him to be. There were times that I couldn’t get him to attend an activity for a number of excuses. This continued until I began to feel envious of the others who attended as a couple. So I continued to push my husband even harder to attend the community activities which many times resulted in heated arguments.
I took the blame on myself and kept on searching for reasons as to what must have I done wrong!? This really took a toll on me, until such time, we both lost interest and became inactive in the BCBP. But during that time when we were inactive, little did I know that my husband was still attending the BCBP breakfasts and serving as one of the breakfast team. I came to know about his silent BCBP activities when we were asked to serve in the BCMR; an invitation we could not decline for it came from a friend. I was surprised to see that my husband knew more people in the community than I did! It was then that I began to realize that there isn’t a need to flaunt your service to the Lord.
The Lord was clearly telling me through the good example of my husband that true service is an act of the heart, an act of surrendering my will to God (instead of dictating my will to God and my husband). I learned that being a silent servant means not asking for anything in return, not even wanting to be recognized. Little by little I came to truly admire my husband for being a silent servant; he would serve in any capacity that he could, without being told nor being asked by anyone, particularly me! (‘’;) This takes “commitment” and “love” knowing that at times, the Lord will call you out of your comfort zone in order to serve him. To Him belongs all honor and glory – not to ourselves!
I now accept that it doesn’t matter if we haven’t got the lead roles in play or a program in any of our activities. Besides, we’ve all been created differently. God designed each of us so there would be no duplication in the world – for a purpose and for a reason. What then matters is that whatever you’re good at and whatever talents/skills you may have, give them back to the Lord through your time, talents and treasure … and of course, your willing service.
Colossians 3:23-25 sums it up, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. ”
Now I am grateful when we are given a chance to serve in the BCBP. Such active service doesn’t make us tired but rather uplifts our souls and usually makes us more alive. The more we serve, the more we feel closer to Him!
I wholeheartedly embrace the words in 1 Timothy 1:12, “I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has given me strength, that He considered me faithful, appointing me to His service.” God bless us all –in our service, our commitment and in our love for HIM!