The three-fold role of man as the father in the family can be summarized as “leader, protector, provider”. Father Phillip Chavez, an American priest of the Society of Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity, in an interview for Zenit.org, Vatican News, says this 3-fold model relates to the natural order, but at the same time is grounded in the supernatural summons to all Christians to share in the three-fold office of Christ as Priest, Prophet, and King in building up the Kingdom of God.
Father Chavez firmly believes that restoring men’s Christian identity as strong husbands, fathers, and leaders in society, cultural champions of mature masculine character and courageous spirit is the proper response to Western society’s subtle shifting of the men’s role, especially as it is influenced by the egalitarian model of femininity and masculinity. Such challenges confronting men’s traditional role in family and society many times result in a host of insecurities for men, creating both mental and spiritual doubts and fears re their masculinity.
In his work with young men, helping them restore their Christian identity as leaders, protectors and providers, he focuses on fatherhood and what he calls “the journey of sonship.” Like Christ, he says, young men need to hear from their fathers that “you are my beloved and in you is my delight” if they are to become fully rounded men, capable of raising a family, and fulfilling their purpose in life. Men should be mentored by other men in order to fully understand the manly role of fatherhood and family leadership/headship as one “who lays it down, who sacrifices, who dies to himself” rather than someone who bossily pushes his weight around.
Pope Benedict XVI during his May 14, 2009, visit to Nazareth, Israel, offered these comments for men: “Here, too,” he said, “we think of St. Joseph, the just man whom God wished to place over his household. From Joseph’s strong and fatherly example Jesus learned the virtues of a manly piety, fidelity to one’s word, integrity and hard work. In the carpenter of Nazareth he saw how authority placed at the service of love is infinitely more fruitful than the power which seeks to dominate. How much our world needs the example, guidance and quiet strength of men like Joseph!” Source: www.zenit.org/article-25959?l=english and www.zenit.org/article-25907?l=english