Testimony of Bro Obet Guia, BCBP San Pablo
“It is in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we heard of Him, He had His eyes on us, had a design on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone.” Ephesians 1:11
I was born in San Pablo City from a strict, disciplinarian and hardworking father and a supportive, frugal mother. My parents made sure that these traits we took to heart such that I learned to focus solely on my studies and veered away from girls as I considered them distractions of some sort.
I graduated with a degree in Mechanical Engineering. I took my oath as a new Mechanical Engineer in April 6, 1986 where I also met, for the first time, my lovely Kapampangan wife, Edith.
My first job was in Makati City and it lasted for six years. Equipped with the necessary experience, I then decided to establish my own heavy equipment fabrication business back in my hometown. To my mind, this was also my way of preparing for marriage with Edith. Not so long after, Edith and I decided to tie the knot.
Our marriage was not without trials and obstacles. But among the trials that we encountered, an issue which really tested our relationship was my being a certified workaholic. Aside from my family, I felt obligated to help my siblings. This led me to build my world around my business. My work topped the list of my priorities. Hectic work schedules occupied the precious time that I should otherwise have been spending with my wife and my children. This also accorded my wife the sole responsibility of rearing our children and managing all family affairs.
I thought everything was fine until one day, I received a letter from Edith. The letter shocked me and caused me much anxiety. Every single word hit me to the core. Edith was asking for a separation!
Decisions are at times difficult to make but through prayers and faith in the Lord, I was granted the grace to discern properly my situation and eventually I made the right choice. I took inspiration from Romans 12:2 which says, “Let your mind be remade and your whole nature thus transformed, then you will be able to discern the will of God and to know what is good, acceptable and perfect.” God led me through a crucial decision-making process and all throughout, I prayed for what’s best and good for all.
I decided to live a simple and less complicated life with less work pressure. I found comfort in my decision and eventually, I was able to better balance my time between my family and work. I thank God for giving me my family, for my wife’s love and care, for her untiring support and patience with me, and for being my strength when I am weak.
It was around this time when I was invited to attend the BCBP breakfast. But I did not immediately gain interest in the breakfast as I was not ready to join any religious community. But through a brother’s perseverance and patience, my wife and I attended the Brotherhood Christian Life Program No. 2. After three years, Edith and I graduated from BCLP No.2 in July 2003.
The greatest joy that I experienced with BCBP was the chance to go to confession during the conduct of BCLP No.2 as my last confession had been when we were to be married which was a good 14 years before BCLP No. 2. From then on, I felt that my faith in God slowly deepened and the community’s teachings and activities nourished me spiritually and strengthened my relationship with my wife and my children.
Before, I felt that I had enough strength and knowledge to accomplish things. I thought that money would give me more free time…that money could solve my problems, that money is a means to an end……that money could make my relationship towards my family smooth. But definitely I was wrong!
Today, I consider money only a part of my business dealings. I thank God for allowing the ‘wake-up call incidents’ that happened as now, I have a clearer view of the things that really matter in life, my Family and my God.
Thank you BCBP for helping me grow closer to the Lord and to my family.